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  • Around the Neighborhood

    West Mesa Little League 2020 Spring Baseball and Softball

    REGISTRATION IS OPEN!!!!   Ages 4-6

    In Person Registration:

    Saturday 1/18 ● 10am-2pm ● Central and Unser Library in the Children’s Workshop Room

    Saturday 1/25 ● 10am-2pm ● West Mesa Little League Clubhouse

     

    OR Register online ANYTIME!  Hurry before divisions fill up!! 

    www.westmesaall.com

    Any questions, please contact wmll.info@gmail.com

    3 Proofs of Residency Required OR School Enrollment Form (school in the WMLL district)

     

    Northwest Area Command Community Policing Council Meetings:

    Held the third Tuesday of every month at 6:00 PM. The meeting is at the Northwest Area Command Substation located at 10401 Cibola Loop, NW 87114 across from Cibola High School.

  • Outreach and Assistance Events

    Veteran Property Tax Exemptions  

    Thursday, Jan. 16, 2020 at the at the Assessor’s Office, 501 Tijeras Ave. NW, from 9 a.m. – 3 p.m. The outreach events will be on the third Thursday of every month until April 2020, with an additional date on April 23, to ensure property owners applying for the veteran property tax exemptions meet the deadline, which is 30 days after the mailing of the notice of value statements.

    Income Tax Assistance

    Make your appointment for assistance with taxes.  Los Volcanes Senior Center, 6500 Los Volcanes NW, 836-8745.  Friday February 7 – April 10, 2020 APPOINTMENTS ONLY

    Free Skills for Dementia Caregiving Course

    Alzheimer’s Association, 6731 Academy Rd. NE

    Tuesday, January 14, 2020 10:00 am – 12:00 pm

    Tuesday, January 28, 2020 10:00 am – 12:00 pm

    Tuesday, February 04, 2020 10:00 am – 12:00 pm

    Tuesday, February 11, 2020 10:00 am – 12:00 pm

    “Skills for Dementia Caregiving”  is a designed for family and friends caring for a loved one with dementia, presented by the Alzheimer’s Association, NM Chapter.

    This evidence-based training aims to teach caregivers practical techniques for interacting with loved ones with dementia orAlzheimer’s disease, and for understanding and managing their behavior. It also imparts tools for long-term planning and for reducing stresses common to dementia or Alzheimer’s caregivers. The course explains the signs, impacts and pathology of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.  Call 505-266-4473 to Register Today!  Price: Free

  • What’s Going on in Albuquerque

    Mayor Tim Keller Gives First State of the City Address, Marks First-Year Progress, Announces New Initiatives for Most Pressing Challenges

    Mayor Tim Keller delivered his first State of the City address at a community celebration where he marked the progress his administration has made during the first year in office and detailed new efforts to address Albuquerque’s most pressing challenges.

    For a  breakdown on the speech go to:  https://www.cabq.gov/mayor/news/mayor-tim-keller-gives-first-state-of-the-city-address-marks-first-year-progress-announces-new-initiatives-for-most-pressing-challenges

    For a video on the speach (1 hour, 26 minutes) go to:  https://www.cabq.gov/sotc

    FREE Genealogical Research 

    10:30 AM | Saturday Jan 18, 2020, Main Library 2nd floor, 501 Copper Ave NW

    Come to the Library for a FREE one on one experience with your Genealogy. We will help, teach, and research your families Ancestry with you.  All computer programs are free and thousands of books to help with research. We have many volunteers so you can have a great experience on your first day researching. For those  with experience maybe we can help you break the Brick Wall down. Parking on the SE Corner Parking Garage is best. You can get 2 hours Free by having the Library stamp your ticket.   Price: Free

    Lighten Up Albuquerque

    Immerse yourself in the Inaugural Projection Mapping Festival, Jan 24, 2020, 6:00 PM – 09:00 PM,  Albuquerque Balloon Museum, 9201 Balloon Museum Drive NE.  This is a time to think big, share light, and set a tone.  In this spirit, Electric Playhouse will expertly map and project, larger than life, artwork from artist Brian Carlson onto the Balloon Museum with creations that express the themes of Energy, Light, Community, Sustainability & Play.  Spend your Friday with us and enjoy food truck dining, Marble Brewery beer garden, balloon glow, free admission to the Balloon Museum and more!   Music provided by Electric Playhouse DJ.  As the light returns and as new year hopes, resolutions and dreams shine, Albuquerque is alive with the energy of the future — powered by a sustainable ecosystem and economy as well as the playful enthusiasm of city residents and all New Mexicans.   Price – Free.

    Plastic Bag REMINDER! 

    Single-Use Plastic Bags Will No Longer Be Offered in Stores and Businesses Starting January 1, 2020.

    Starting Wednesday, January 1, 2020, local stores and businesses will no longer carry plastic bags for shoppers. The City Council passed the Clean and Green Retail Ordinance last April, prohibiting businesses from providing single-use plastic bags to customers. To learn more about Clean and Green visit:

    http://www.cabq.gov/solidwaste/clean-and-green-retail-ordinance

     

    Parenting 101: Understanding Your Child  

    Main Public Library,501 Copper Ave NW

    Sunday, January 12, 2020 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm

    Sunday, January 19, 2020 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm

    Sunday, January 26, 2020 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm

    All you need to know about the proper upbringing of children. A professional child psychologist will answer all possible questions and talk about the best methods of raising children. Contact Info, Julia Mells, bestbabykit@gmail.com  : Free —FREE

     

    NM Gas Company Offers Free Online Savings Tool

    Interested in learning how you might conserve natural resources within your home during winter months? The New Mexico Gas Company now has a free analysis tool available to help you. Visit: https://nmgc.energysavvy.com/residential/start/   and start saving today!

     

    Freedom to Ride Program Expands Transit Options for Military Veterans
    The New Mexico Rail Runner has expanded its Freedom to Ride Program, and now, all active duty military, veterans and anyone with a federally-issued veteran or military photo ID can ride the Rail Runner for free! To learn more, visit: www.riometro.org

     

    LearningExpress Library Offers Numerous Online Study and and Homework Resources
    LearningExpress Library is a great online resource that offers online tutoring, homework assistance in English and Spanish, test preparation, and career preparation for students of all ages!  Best of all, it’s free, all you need is a library card.
    Visit:www.learningexpresshub.com/productengine/LELIndex.html#/learningexpresslibrary/libraryhome?AuthToken=91614C7C-629D-4D6C-A8A2-8709C84561E0 to learn more!

     

    Free general admission to Albuquerque Museum 

    On the following dates :

    Enjoy a pleasant stroll in our sculpture garden with a friendly docent who will sharing stories  on the artists and their works. No reservations necessary.  General admission is free for the following times also:
    9 a.m. to 5 p.m. on the first Wednesday of every month
    5 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. on the third Thursday of every month
    9 a.m. to 1 p.m. every Sunday

     

    Senior Centers Offer Wide Variety of Activities and Services for 62+

    We all know a senior citizen, whether it’s a family member, a friend or a neighbor! Why not recommend some of the great free services offered by our Department of Senior Affairs? Our many Senior Centers offer a wide variety of classes and activities ranging from computer literacy to tax assistance to basketball to knitting to wood carving, and everything in between! Visit:www.cabq.gov/seniors/events to learn more!

     

  • Landscaping Tips

    Winter Tree Pruning

    The winter is best time of year to prune trees. The Water Authority recommends hiring an arborist to prune them because arborists specialize in the care of individual trees. They are knowledgeable about the needs of trees and are trained and equipped to provide the proper care.

    Arborists can provide the following services:

    1. Pruning
    2. Tree removal
    3. Emergency tree care
    4. Planting
    5. Plant health care
    6. Other services such as consulting, tree risk assessment, cabling and bracing of trees.

    How do you find a professional arborist to take care of your trees? We recommend to ask the following questions when looking for an arborist:

    1. Are they certified? Certified arborists have achieved a level of knowledge in the art and science of tree care through experience. They have passed a comprehensive examination developed by some of the nation’s leading tree care experts. There is an online resource called Find an Arboristto help you locate one in your area.
    2. Do they have insurance? Check that they have a certificate of insurance that includes proof of liability for personal and property damage, including workers’ compensation.
    3. Do they offer a contract? Get a written contract of the work to be completed from the arborist. It should include the estimate for the services, a start date, and estimate of how long the work will take.
    4. Do they have references? Ask the tree company to provide a few names of past customers, and ask friends and neighbors for local references, too.

    To learn more about tree care, visit http://www.treesaregood.org/portals/0/docs/treecare/hire_arborist.pdf

  • Bernalillo County Happenings

    BernCo News Release: Assessor Partners with NM Dept. of Veteran Services for Veteran’s Outreach   

    Office of the Assessor for Bernalillo County Hosts Third Annual Veteran Outreach Partnership with New Mexico Department of Veteran Services.  Bernalillo County.  The veteran outreach kicks off in December, and will be on the third Thursday of every month until April 2020, with an additional date in April added, to ensure property owners applying for the veteran property tax exemptions meet the deadline, which is 30 days after the mailing of the notice of value statements.   This year, because of the continuing partnership, qualifying veterans will be able to obtain, at the veteran outreach, their tax exemption certificates on-site from the NMDVS and then be able to apply for their veteran property tax exemption with the Bernalillo County Assessor’s Office.

     

  • 311 is Here for You

    311 Customer Service Survey Invites Public Feedback

    Have you taken the 311 Customer Service Survey yet? This online survey offers you the chance to give feedback and share ideas for making the City’s 311 service more open, accessible and accountable to the community it serves. To take the survey, visit:https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/S8TKMZV

    311 Citizen Contact Center

    Information about the 311 Citizen Contact Center.

    The 311 Citizen Contact Center is a centralized call center for the City of Albuquerque. The 311 service is a single telephone number for all non-emergency City of Albuquerque inquiries and services.

    We answer questions and respond to requests for service.

    Hours

    Monday through Saturday – 6 a.m. to 9 p.m.

    Sunday – 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. (Animal welfare calls and fixed bus times)

    How Can We Help?

    There are several ways the City of Albuquerque and 311 can answer questions or requests for service.

    Click here for website

     

    The new City website link to report abandoned vehicles.

        Report Abandoned Vehicles at: https://www.cabq.gov/report-abandoned-vehicles/report-abandoned-vehicles

     

  • Safety

    Sign Up for APD’s Security Camera Analytical Network! Does your home or business have a security camera? Register it with the Albuquerque Police Department (APD) Security Camera Analytical Network (SCAN) network at: www.cabq.gov/scan. Connecting your street-facing security camera to the SCAN network can help counter crime in your area and helps APD with visual surveillance and information in the event a crime was captured on camera.

     

     

  • Check out the latest Neighborhood Newsletters

    From the City, the County and APD - just go to our "Neighborhood News" page!
  • Archives

Annual Meeting This Tuesday – September 17th

Hi everyone,

Just a quick reminder that the annual meeting of the Ladera West Neighborhood Association will be this coming Tuesday, September 17th at 6:30 p.m. at the Ladera Golf Course Banquet Room.

Please click this link to see the flyer with full details.  See you Tuesday!  Ladera West Neighborhood Association Annual Meeting Flyer 2019

 

 

Door-to-Door Solicitation Safety Tips

The Office of Neighborhood Coordination, in the Weekly E-News, reminds us to be cautious of door to door solicitations.

“Illegal or unauthorized door-to-door solicitation presents a possible unsafe situation in the residential setting, and the Albuquerque Police Department offers suggestions below about safely handling unwanted/unauthorized solicitors:

  • If someone knocks on your door, if possible, ALWAYS check the area through a window, eye-viewer or camera system prior to opening the door, even if you are expecting a visitor. If someone unfamiliar is outside your door, you should be VERY cautious about opening the door.
  • If you have a security screen door and it is bolted and locked and you feel comfortable opening the inner door, do so but do not engage with the individual. Instead, politely ask them to leave.
  • If you do not have a security screen door, ask the visitor to leave the premises and notify them that you do not want them there through your closed and locked front door. Never allow the visitor access to your house for any reason. Once you have asked the visitor to leave your property, you should observe them leaving and be prepared to report suspicious activity to the police.
  • Don’t let a knock on the door go unanswered, whether through your security screen door, main door, or camera system, however. Criminals posing as a legitimate solicitor are looking for an empty house to eventually commit residential burglary, and if they break into an expected empty residence and find an occupant, the probability of a violent encounter is high.
  • If someone knocks on your door late at night asking for help, DO NOT OPEN THE DOOR. Instead, call 911 immediately.
  • If you have experienced an illegal solicitor or suspicious person knocking on doors in your neighborhood, alert your neighbors in the immediate area.
  • Remember that all legitimate businesses in the City of Albuquerque must have a permit to operate, and this includes the door-to-door solicitor per City Ordinance 13-3-1-1: “The Ordinance requires the individual to have on their person a permit that can be produced on request, which includes photo identification. Any solicitor that claims not to have one or has left it in another location should be considered illegitimate. If you desire the right of privacy, posting a No Trespassing or No Soliciting sign on your premises must be observed by the solicitor. Solicitation is permitted only between the hours of 9:00 a.m. and sunset.”

Visit: www.cabq.gov/police/documents/Door-to-Door-Solicitation.pdf to learn more about door to door solicitation safety.

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Local Adventures

Free Adventure Packs

With school starting, why not take the kids on an adventure to start studying. The City of Albuquerque Parks and Recreation Department’s Open Space Visitor Center has FREE explorer packs.

“Children and children at heart can stop by the Open Space Visitor Center to check out an Open Space Explorer Pack and experience the natural wonders we have to offer. The backpacks are intended to get families outside and in to nature to learn about plants, animals, and cultural resources found within Open Space. Each backpack is filled with exciting self-guided activities.”

“The packs are available for use Tuesdays-Sundays and must be returned by 4:30pm. Call 897-8831 to reserve a backpack for a particular time and day.” The Open Space Visitor Center is at 6500 Coors Blvd NW behind that interesting art installation. The center’s website is located at https://www.cabq.gov/parksandrecreation/open-space/open-space-visitor-center . They have a calendar of events.

Growers Markets Showcase Local Produce

But, then again, the hunt for fresh produce is also an adventure: a chance to learn about new foods and cooking methods.

“Have you been to one of Albuquerque’s many great Grower’s Markets yet? There are so many to choose from, and in every quadrant of the city! You’ll have your pick of fresh fruit and seasonal vegetables, homemade food, handcrafts, and much more! To see a map of all Albuquerque Grower Markets, visit: http://farmersmarketsnm.org/find-a-market/ .”  (from the Office of Neighborhood Coordination Weekly E-News of Monday, June 24, 2019)

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National Night Out – Friday 8/16/19

Come join Ladera West and Ladera Heights Neighborhood Associations on Friday 8/16 for a Picnic in the Park for National Night Out!!

WHERE:   Rinconada Pointe Park
(at Bob McCannon and Painted Rock)

WHEN:  6 to 8 pm

Check out the attached flyer here: National Night Out 8.16.19

Plan on stopping by to say hello and have a bite to eat!

August Newsletters and Ice Cream Social

Hi neighbors and Happy August!

Two great newsletters.  One from the Office of Neighborhood Coordination (ONC) onc-newsletter-August 2019 that has articles on creating a family emergency plan, the ART Driver Education Program and IDO zoning updates.  Also, the Bernalillo County Sheriff’s Office (BCSO) has a great article on back to school safety tips, so a timely read. BCSO Newsletter_August 2019

As a reminder, please join us for an Ice Cream Social sponsored by Ladera Heights and Ladera West Neighborhood Associations as part of the National Neighborhood Night Out events at the Ladera Golf Course this coming Tuesday, August 6th, 2019 from 6 to 8 pm. Yummy! Ice Cream Social 8.6.19

Hope to see you there!

City of Albuquerque Launches Driver Education Efforts in Preparation for ART Buses Traveling in the ART Lanes

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Be Aware and Be Safe!!
The “Stay in your Lane” Campaign begins in Coordination with ABQ RIDE Driver Training on July 22.

The City of Albuquerque and APD will be coordinating a months-long awareness campaign to get drivers ready for the full operation of ART.  ABQ RIDE drivers are set to begin training in the ART buses on Monday, July 22. If you drive on Central Avenue between Coors and Louisiana, you’ve likely seen drivers crossing over the ART lanes to make turns onto or off of Central Avenue.

APD will begin educating drivers who are improperly using the ART lanes with warnings, in an effort to give drivers as much lead time as possible to get used to the inclusion of buses in the ART lanes on Central Avenue.

“Today, we are beginning a coordinated public outreach campaign to educate drivers about staying out of the ART lanes. As we prepare for full operation, we want drivers to be ready for the new normal along the corridor,” stated Lawrence Rael, Albuquerque’s Chief Operating Officer. “We’re starting now to give drivers as much lead time as possible to get used to the new flow of traffic. What better way to do it than with buses actually in the ART lanes during driver training.”

According to APD, this is about driver safety education, not enforcement. “We haven’t been giving warnings or tickets so far, because ART buses haven’t been using the corridor. Now that they’ll be running the full route on a regular basis, drivers can keep themselves and bus drivers safe by learning how to drive alongside the buses,” said Traffic Commander Donovan Rivera of APD. “During training, we’ll only issue warnings to remind people of the proper use of the lanes and why it keeps them as well as ART drivers and passengers safe.”

After training ends, APD will issue tickets to drivers violating the ART lanes, with fines of $80 for failing to obey the “Bus Only” signs, or for crossing the double white line. It is possible for drivers to incur fines for both infractions at the same time.

Driver training will consist of:

  • Docking at the stations
  • Adjusting to the height of the ART platform
  • Using the doors on both sides of the bus.
  • Deploying the bridge plates for wheelchairs
  • Testing of Transit Signal Priority along the corridor
  • Testing the automatic wheelchair restraint

As a reminder, message boards will be deployed along the nine mile long ART corridor for the first few weeks of the training to remind drivers to “Stay in Your Lane.”

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Tips to Protect Against Identity Theft

Protecting Yourself from identity theft is one of those topics that require frequent review. The Office of Neighborhood Coordination (ONC) gave us these tips in the Weekly E-News of Monday, January 14, 2019. I would also like to encourage you to get your credit frozen/blocked through each credit reporting agency (Equifax, Transunion, and Experion.) Learn how from the US Federal Trade Commission at https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0497-credit-freeze-faqs . This is now a free service. And, no one can access your information to open new accounts without your prior authorization. Wishing you the best at safeguarding your information.

“Identity theft is a concern everyone shares. Here are a few tips from the Albuquerque Police Department on how to help protect yourself and your loved ones from this ongoing problem:

  • Never give out your Social Security number, particularly if someone calls or e-mails you and asks for it. Try not to carry your SSN card in your wallet.
  • Don’t respond to any unsolicited requests for personal information.
  • Consider getting a P.O. box at your closest post office. Thieves often break into mailboxes and steal credit cards, checks, or outgoing payments. If you can’t get a P.O. box, ensure that you check your mail every single day.
  • If you have a community mailbox in your neighborhood, check your mail every day and encourage your neighbors to do the same. If possible, ask a neighbor living close to the community mailbox to keep a regular eye on it.
  • If you are traveling for longer than a week, have a trusted neighbor pick up your mail, or have at temporary hold put on your mail at your post office.
  • When buying gas, try to go inside and have the store clerk run your credit/debit card, rather than using the outside card reader. Identity thieves are very good at installing skimmers that can read your card information and be used to create duplicate cards.
  • Check your banking accounts and credit card accounts frequently, and watch for unauthorized transactions, even small ones.
  • Shred receipts, credit offers, account statements, and expired cards, to prevent “dumpster divers” from getting your information.
  • Install firewalls and anti-virus software on your home computer and personal smart phone and tablet devices.
  • Create complex and different passwords for each of your online accounts. Change your password immediately if any of your credit card or banking companies has a data breach.

For more crime-prevention information, visit: https://www.cabq.gov/police/crime-prevention-safety .”

Finding a New BFF?

After that last series, don’t we all feel that we need a really good friend? I’ve mentioned my Best Friend Forever (BFF), Aria, before. There is no doubt of the love and support we get from our furry BFFs*. Dogs and cats are regulars in hospitals, social centers, schools, and libraries these days**. They comfort the ill, listen to children read, and help us get our exercise. Spring is a great time to get a new BFF.

Bernalillo County recently announced the opening of the Bernalillo County Animal Care and Resource Center. “This new animal care and resource center, at 3001 Second St. SW, is a little over 17,000 square feet and includes space for approximately 117 to 150 dogs and approximately 80-100 cats. Since many parts of the county are in rural areas, this new shelter will also provide more adequate housing for horses, cows, sheep and other livestock. Some of the exciting new programs and services will include many types of volunteer and recreational opportunities, educational and training classes for people and animals, camp programs, spay and neuter, microchipping and vaccination clinics, foster care, and much more.” Animal viewing from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Monday to Friday. Call (505) 314-0281 or (505) 468-PETS (468-7387) or https://www.bernco.gov/animal-care-services/animal-care-and-resource-center.aspx .

Other great options:

City of Albuquerque, Animal Welfare Department at

Eastside Shelter, 8920 Lomas Blvd NE, (505) 768-1975

Westside Shelter, 11800 Sunset Gardens Rd SW, (505) 768-1975

Lucky Paws Adoption Center, Coronado Center, 6600 Menaul Blvd NE, (505) 768-1975

PetSmart Everyday Adoption Center – 350 Eubank Blvd. NE, (505) 298-4122

or, https://www.cabq.gov/pets/adoption .

Animal Humane at

615 Virginia St. SE, Albuquerque, NM 87108, (505) 255-5523 or

10141 Coors Blvd. NW, Albuquerque, NM 87114, (505) 323-PETS (7387)

or https://animalhumanenm.org/ .

There are many other facilities available from a web search.

* There are many websites for researching the best fit pet for you. For dogs, you can start at the American Kennel Club’s Dog Breed Selector website at https://www.akc.org/dog-breed-selector/ . Both the personality of the person and the personality of the animal must match for BFFs.

** Before bringing your BFF to any facility, please make sure the BFF and you are trained to behave correctly for that environment. A good start is the American Kennel Club’s Canine Good Citizen class – taught by various trainers in Albuquerque. Then, check with that facility for additional training requirements. In these situations, a trained dog is a blessing; and an untrained dog could be a disaster.

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Healthy Relationships: Recognizing Abusive Relationships

This is the last part of a series on relationships. Now that we have seen what unhealthy and healthy relationships look like, let’s learn the characteristics of abusive relationships. When you see these characteristics, please seek help from the resources listed in part 1 of this series and get your loved one to a safe place for recovery. Even though this series is on teen dating, these characteristics apply to any age group. This series is courtesy of the February 2019 issue of the Bernco Sheriff’s newsletter, the “Communicator.”

“Teen dating violence is defined as the physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional aggression within a dating relationship, including stalking. It can occur in person or electronically and might occur between a current or former dating partner. Several different words are used to describe teen dating violence. Below are just a few:

  • Relationship abuse
  • Intimate partner violence
  • Relationship violence
  • Dating abuse
  • Domestic abuse
  • Domestic violence

Teen dating violence is widespread with serious long-term and short-term effects. Many teens do not report it because they are afraid to tell friends and family. Being able to tell the difference between healthy, unhealthy and abusive relationships can be more difficult than you would think. No two relationships are the same, so what’s unhealthy in one relationship may be abusive in another. Although there are many signs to pay attention to in a relationship, look for these common warning signs of dating abuse:

  • Checking cell phones, emails or social networks without permission
  • Extreme jealousy or insecurity
  • Constant belittling or put-downs
  • Explosive temper
  • Isolation from family and friends
  • Making false accusations
  • Constant mood swings towards you
  • Physically inflicting pain or hurt in any way
  • Possessiveness
  • Telling someone what they can and cannot do
  • Repeatedly pressuring someone to have sex

As teens develop emotionally, they are heavily influenced by experiences in their relationships. Healthy relationship behaviors can have a positive effect on a teen’s emotional development. Unhealthy, abusive, or violent relationships can have short- and long-term negative effects on a developing teen. Youth who experience dating violence are more likely to:

  • Experience symptoms of depression and anxiety
  • Engage in unhealthy behaviors, such as using tobacco, drugs, and alcohol
  • Exhibit antisocial behaviors
  • Think about suicide
  • Witness or experience violence in the home

Communicating with your partner, managing uncomfortable emotions like anger and jealousy, and treating others with respect are a few ways to keep relationships healthy and nonviolent. Dating violence can be prevented when teens, families, organizations, and communities work together to implement effective prevention strategies.

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Healthy Relationships: Recognizing Healthy Relationships

This is the second part of a series on relationships. Now that we have seen what unhealthy relationships look like, let’s learn the characteristics of healthy relationships. Please have another conversation with your loved ones. Please tell them how happy you want them to be and these are the minimum requirements of a healthy relationship. This series is courtesy of the February 2019 issue of the Bernco Sheriff’s newsletter, the “Communicator.”

“Healthy relationships share certain characteristics that our youth should be taught to expect:

  • Mutual respect: Respect means that each person values who the other is and understands the other person’s boundaries.
  • Trust: Partners should place trust in each other and give each other the benefit of the doubt.
  • Honesty: Honesty builds trust and strengthens the relationship.
  • Compromise: In a dating relationship, each partner does not always get his or her way. Each should acknowledge different points of view and be willing to give and take.
  • Individuality: Neither partner should have to compromise who he/she is, and his/her identity should not be based on a partner’s. Each should continue seeing his or her friends and doing the things, he/she loves. Each should be supportive of his/her partner wanting to pursue new hobbies or make new friends.
  • Good communication: Each partner should speak honestly and openly to avoid miscommunication. If one person needs to sort out his or her feelings first, the other partner should respect those wishes and wait until he or she is ready to talk.
  • Anger control: We all get angry, but how we express it can affect our relationships with others. Anger can be handled in healthy ways such as taking a deep breath, counting to ten, or talking it out.
  • Fighting fair. Everyone argues at some point, but those who are fair, stick to the subject, and avoid insults are more likely to come up with a possible solution. Partners should take a short break away from each other if the discussion gets too heated.
  • Problem solving: Dating partners can learn to solve problems and identify new solutions by breaking a problem into small parts or by talking through the situation.
  • Each partner should take time to understand what the other might be feeling.
  • Self-confidence: When dating partners have confidence in themselves, it can help their relationships with others. It shows that they are calm and comfortable enough to allow others to express their opinions without forcing their own opinions on them.
  • Being a role model: By embodying what respect means, partners can inspire each other, friends, and family to also behave in a respectful way.
  • Healthy sexual relationship: Dating partners engage in a sexual relationship that both are comfortable with, and neither partner feels pressured or forced to engage in sexual activity that is outside his or her comfort zone or without consent.”

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