Autumn feels great. But, I’m starting to think of where I stored my winter clothes. It’s hard to believe that we will be comfortable in our winter routines in a few weeks. So, this is a good time to think about saving energy and water before winter arrives. Making these few changes could save you money all winter long. These tips are courtesy of the Office of Neighborhood Coordination (ONC) Weekly E-News of Monday, January 28, 2019.

“With winter weather upon us, it’s a good time to take a look around your home and see how you can save money and conserve resources. Here are some ideas:

• Seal up gaps around windows and doors with weather stripping and caulking.
• Switch over to LED light bulbs, which may cost a bit more up front but last much longer and save money on electricity.
• Adjust your thermostat and if possible, invest in a smart thermostat that can be programmed to automatically adjust.” (Or, join PNM’s Power Saver Program for a FREE Wi-Fi Programable Thermostat. For more Information, call 866-471-7906.)
• “If possible, replace single-pane windows with double-pane units and low E-glazing.
• Have your heater inspected and filters cleaned out.
• Remember that you don’t need to water as much in the fall and winter months and adjust your irrigation needs accordingly.
• Consider replacing your toilet with a low-flow unit, which saves money and is much more efficient.

To learn more about how to conserve energy and water during the winter months, visit: www.pnm.com or www.abcwua.org .”

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In the last blog, we gained a better understanding of Child Abuse. In this continuation, we learn about physical and behavioral signs of abuse. Then, we learn how to report child abuse and help.

“Recognizing the Signs of Abuse

Children who are abused may or may not show physical or behavioral signs of being maltreated. In some instances, there may be an unusual pattern or location of physical injuries that suggests abuse. In other cases, there may be no physical indicators, but the child’s behavior has changed in a questionable and observable way. Educate yourself and others about some of the obvious and less obvious signs of possible child abuse, including:

PHYSICAL SIGNS

• Injuries such as bruises, bums, welts, or broken bones that are unexplained or have implausible explanations.
• Missing hair
• Poor hygiene
• Multiple injuries at different stages of healing
• Improperly treated injury or medical condition
• Slowed physical development
• Unattended medical or dental needs
• Consistent hunger
• Inappropriate clothing for weather conditions
• Speech delay
• Frequent tardiness or absence from school

BEHAVIORAL SIGNS

• Declining school performance or involvement
• Lack of concentration
• Difficulty making and keeping friends
• Signs of persistent unhappiness or depression
• Withdrawn from others
• Displaying angry or aggressive behavior
• Destruction of property
• Hurting themselves or others
• Low self-esteem
• Problems expressing feelings
• Fatigue, listlessness, or regularly falling asleep in class
• Constantly seeking attention or approval
• Sleeping problems or insomnia
• Reluctance to go home

REPORTING SUSPECTED CHILD MALTREATMENT

Reporting suspected or known child abuse is a brave act that may prevent a child from being harmed or even save a child’s life. Any concerned individual who suspects or knows that a child is being threatened, abused or neglected needs to report that information to child protective services or law enforcement.

A report of alleged child maltreatment may be made by anyone. Voluntary reports come from family, friends, neighbors and other caring community members. Mandated reporting is a federal and statutory requirement for specific professionals and service providers, including but not limited to schools, medical staff, law enforcement, and social workers, who are legally bound to make a report when maltreatment or threatened harm to a child is suspected or confirmed. Reporters do not have to prove or personally witness the maltreatment. The law is very clear – reports should also be made when abuse or neglect is suspected or where there is a threat that maltreatment may occur unless action is taken.

To report suspected abuse or neglect statewide:               1-855-333-SAFE, or online at https://cyfd.org , or if you would like to help children in New Mexico affected by abuse and neglect visit https://pulltogether.org/.”

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Have you ever noticed something is just not quite right with a child? The Bernalillo County Sheriff’s office gave us information to help us understand child abuse in the monthly magazine, “The Communicator,” from April 2019.

“Every child deserves to grow up in a safe, stable, and nurturing environment… Say Something, Do Something for Kids, by promoting and strengthening child abuse prevention efforts in Bernalillo County.

Children are the foundation of our society, our community and our future. Children raised in loving and supportive environments are more likely to prosper academically and financially, becoming successful contributing members of society. We need to enhance the success of our communities by promoting programs and policies that seek to support the lives of children and families. Preventing child abuse and neglect results in better childhoods, ultimately saving millions of dollars currently used to address the short and long-term effects of abuse on children, their families, and our communities. The savings generated through prevention can be used to serve our communities in other ways, making them safer, economically successful, and great places to live and grow.

What is Child Abuse and Neglect?

Child abuse is an act or failure to act by a parent or caregiver that results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation, or that creates an imminent risk of serious harm to a child. Child abuse typically refers to harm caused by parents or other caregivers, but acquaintances, strangers, and other persons may also be responsible for abusing a child.”

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With Halloween this coming Thursday, we wanted to share some great tips from our friends at Ladera Heights Neighborhood Association:

Besides examining all treats before consuming them. consider these helpful tips:

• Do not trick-or-treat alone. A parent, approved adult or responsible older sibling should always accompany young children.
• If older children are going out, plan and review the agreed-upon route, and set a specific time when they should return home.
• Check costumes for choking and/or tripping hazards.
• Inspect costume accessories, especially swords, knives, wands, guns, lightsabers, ninja stars or other toy weapons. They should be soft and flexible and unable to cause real harm … or undue alarm.
• Have charged cellphones with you at all times. (Do not keep them on silent.)
• Use flashlights (with fresh batteries) and/or reflective tape or glow accessories for all children and escorts.
• Stay in groups and communicate.
• Travel together on well-lit streets and stay on the sidewalk (or use the far edge of the road, facing traffic).
• Do not take shortcuts across yards or alleys. Use crosswalks or cross the streets at well-lit areas.
• Don’t run!
• Do not assume the right of way. Drivers may have trouble seeing trick-or-treaters in costumes. (And just because one car stops doesn’t mean others will!)
• Only go to homes with a porch light on, and never enter a home or a vehicle for a treat.
• Stay clear of lit candles and luminaries and be careful not to trip on cords, support lines or other decorations.
• Notify law enforcement immediately if you see any suspicious or unlawful activity.

With the cool Autumn the days are getting shorter and more comfortable. Exercising outside seems easier again. This is a great time to soak in some sunshine before winter. “If you want to be out in the sunshine and get in some extra steps toward your daily recommended 10,000, why not check out one of Albuquerque’s many Prescription Trail Parks?

A Prescription Trail is a walking path in a city park, of varying length and degrees of difficulty. Albuquerque has nearly 30 Prescription Trails dotted about, with each installed as a way of encouraging residents, families and even pets to increase activity level. It’s also a good way to encourage residents to utilize their city parks.

‘The great thing about a Prescription Trail is that it’s easy to use’, said Christina Sandoval, Principal Planner at the Parks and Recreation Department. ‘No matter what level of fitness you’re at, you can take a walk or roll in a wheelchair. Even taking just one walk per day can have enormous benefits on your health.’

Walking is a great form of exercise, and can also be a gateway to other types of physical activity, such as working out or using fitness machines; and many Prescription Trail parks have fitness equipment, making our city’s free fitness options much more comprehensive.

‘We’ve found with many of our residents who walk the trails regularly oftentimes have a health issue that prevents them going to the gym, or they may not have the financial resources or inclination to go to a fitness center,’ said Sandoval. ‘But a Prescription Trail can be used by anyone. It’s actually a very inclusive program!’

When using a Prescription Trail for walking or running, always wear comfortable shoes and bring water. The Dietary Guidelines for Americans say that most adults should be physically active on a moderately intensive level for 30 minutes on most days of the week.

‘We really encourage all our residents to get out there and use these great trails,’ said Sandoval. ‘It’s not only good for your physical health, it’s also a great way to be part of all the fun events happening at all neighborhood parks across the city.’

The Parks and Recreation Department maintains and oversees 286 parks citywide, which includes the Prescription Trails parks, 14 dog parks, and City swimming pools. You can also enjoy one of the City’s four golf courses, and the 29,000-acre Open Space Program.

To learn more about the City’s Prescription Trail Program, visit: http://prescriptiontrails.org” (from the Office of Neighborhood Coordination’s “Neighborhood News” magazine, May 2019.)

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Now that we are all getting comfortable in our Autumn routines and the days are getting shorter, we need to remind ourselves and our children of the importance of being safe when we are outside. The Bernalillo County Sheriff’s Office, monthly “Communicator” of April 2019 gives us these pointers.

“Children and Teens are some of the most vulnerable victims of crimes when traveling to and from school, activities, social functions, and friend’s homes. Here are some helpful tips for children of all ages we would like to share with you and your family.

• Try to walk places with your friends rather than alone.
• Stick to well-lighted, well-traveled streets.
• Avoid shortcuts through wooded areas, parking lots, or alleys
• Take the safest route to and from schools, stores, or your friends’ houses.
• Know where to go for help if you need it.
• Carry your backpack or purse close to your body and keep it closed.
• Have your car or house key in your hand before you reach the door.
• If you think someone is following you, switch directions or cross the street. If they’re still there, move quickly toward an open store or restaurant or lighted house. Don’t be afraid to yell for help.
• Be alert in the neighborhood. Call the police or tell an adult about anything you see that seems suspicious.”

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Hi everyone,

Just a quick reminder that the annual meeting of the Ladera West Neighborhood Association will be this coming Tuesday, September 17th at 6:30 p.m. at the Ladera Golf Course Banquet Room.

Please click this link to see the flyer with full details.  See you Tuesday!  Ladera West Neighborhood Association Annual Meeting Flyer 2019

The Office of Neighborhood Coordination, in the Weekly E-News, reminds us to be cautious of door to door solicitations.

“Illegal or unauthorized door-to-door solicitation presents a possible unsafe situation in the residential setting, and the Albuquerque Police Department offers suggestions below about safely handling unwanted/unauthorized solicitors:

• If someone knocks on your door, if possible, ALWAYS check the area through a window, eye-viewer or camera system prior to opening the door, even if you are expecting a visitor. If someone unfamiliar is outside your door, you should be VERY cautious about opening the door.
• If you have a security screen door and it is bolted and locked and you feel comfortable opening the inner door, do so but do not engage with the individual. Instead, politely ask them to leave.
• If you do not have a security screen door, ask the visitor to leave the premises and notify them that you do not want them there through your closed and locked front door. Never allow the visitor access to your house for any reason. Once you have asked the visitor to leave your property, you should observe them leaving and be prepared to report suspicious activity to the police.
• Don’t let a knock on the door go unanswered, whether through your security screen door, main door, or camera system, however. Criminals posing as a legitimate solicitor are looking for an empty house to eventually commit residential burglary, and if they break into an expected empty residence and find an occupant, the probability of a violent encounter is high.
• If someone knocks on your door late at night asking for help, DO NOT OPEN THE DOOR. Instead, call 911 immediately.
• If you have experienced an illegal solicitor or suspicious person knocking on doors in your neighborhood, alert your neighbors in the immediate area.
• Remember that all legitimate businesses in the City of Albuquerque must have a permit to operate, and this includes the door-to-door solicitor per City Ordinance 13-3-1-1: “The Ordinance requires the individual to have on their person a permit that can be produced on request, which includes photo identification. Any solicitor that claims not to have one or has left it in another location should be considered illegitimate. If you desire the right of privacy, posting a No Trespassing or No Soliciting sign on your premises must be observed by the solicitor. Solicitation is permitted only between the hours of 9:00 a.m. and sunset.”

Visit: www.cabq.gov/police/documents/Door-to-Door-Solicitation.pdf to learn more about door to door solicitation safety.

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Free Adventure Packs

With school starting, why not take the kids on an adventure to start studying. The City of Albuquerque Parks and Recreation Department’s Open Space Visitor Center has FREE explorer packs.

“Children and children at heart can stop by the Open Space Visitor Center to check out an Open Space Explorer Pack and experience the natural wonders we have to offer. The backpacks are intended to get families outside and in to nature to learn about plants, animals, and cultural resources found within Open Space. Each backpack is filled with exciting self-guided activities.”

“The packs are available for use Tuesdays-Sundays and must be returned by 4:30pm. Call 897-8831 to reserve a backpack for a particular time and day.” The Open Space Visitor Center is at 6500 Coors Blvd NW behind that interesting art installation. The center’s website is located at https://www.cabq.gov/parksandrecreation/open-space/open-space-visitor-center . They have a calendar of events.

Growers Markets Showcase Local Produce

But, then again, the hunt for fresh produce is also an adventure: a chance to learn about new foods and cooking methods.

“Have you been to one of Albuquerque’s many great Grower’s Markets yet? There are so many to choose from, and in every quadrant of the city! You’ll have your pick of fresh fruit and seasonal vegetables, homemade food, handcrafts, and much more! To see a map of all Albuquerque Grower Markets, visit: http://farmersmarketsnm.org/find-a-market/ .”  (from the Office of Neighborhood Coordination Weekly E-News of Monday, June 24, 2019)

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Come join Ladera West and Ladera Heights Neighborhood Associations on Friday 8/16 for a Picnic in the Park for National Night Out!!

WHERE:   Rinconada Pointe Park
(at Bob McCannon and Painted Rock)

WHEN:  6 to 8 pm

Check out the attached flyer here: National Night Out 8.16.19

Plan on stopping by to say hello and have a bite to eat!

Hi neighbors and Happy August!

Two great newsletters.  One from the Office of Neighborhood Coordination (ONC) onc-newsletter-August 2019 that has articles on creating a family emergency plan, the ART Driver Education Program and IDO zoning updates.  Also, the Bernalillo County Sheriff’s Office (BCSO) has a great article on back to school safety tips, so a timely read. BCSO Newsletter_August 2019

As a reminder, please join us for an Ice Cream Social sponsored by Ladera Heights and Ladera West Neighborhood Associations as part of the National Neighborhood Night Out events at the Ladera Golf Course this coming Tuesday, August 6^th, 2019 from 6 to 8 pm. Yummy! Ice Cream Social 8.6.19

Hope to see you there!

Protecting Yourself from identity theft is one of those topics that require frequent review. The Office of Neighborhood Coordination (ONC) gave us these tips in the Weekly E-News of Monday, January 14, 2019. I would also like to encourage you to get your credit frozen/blocked through each credit reporting agency (Equifax, Transunion, and Experion.) Learn how from the US Federal Trade Commission at https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0497-credit-freeze-faqs . This is now a free service. And, no one can access your information to open new accounts without your prior authorization. Wishing you the best at safeguarding your information.

“Identity theft is a concern everyone shares. Here are a few tips from the Albuquerque Police Department on how to help protect yourself and your loved ones from this ongoing problem:

• Never give out your Social Security number, particularly if someone calls or e-mails you and asks for it. Try not to carry your SSN card in your wallet.
• Don’t respond to any unsolicited requests for personal information.
• Consider getting a P.O. box at your closest post office. Thieves often break into mailboxes and steal credit cards, checks, or outgoing payments. If you can’t get a P.O. box, ensure that you check your mail every single day.
• If you have a community mailbox in your neighborhood, check your mail every day and encourage your neighbors to do the same. If possible, ask a neighbor living close to the community mailbox to keep a regular eye on it.
• If you are traveling for longer than a week, have a trusted neighbor pick up your mail, or have at temporary hold put on your mail at your post office.
• When buying gas, try to go inside and have the store clerk run your credit/debit card, rather than using the outside card reader. Identity thieves are very good at installing skimmers that can read your card information and be used to create duplicate cards.
• Check your banking accounts and credit card accounts frequently, and watch for unauthorized transactions, even small ones.
• Shred receipts, credit offers, account statements, and expired cards, to prevent “dumpster divers” from getting your information.
• Install firewalls and anti-virus software on your home computer and personal smart phone and tablet devices.
• Create complex and different passwords for each of your online accounts. Change your password immediately if any of your credit card or banking companies has a data breach.

For more crime-prevention information, visit: https://www.cabq.gov/police/crime-prevention-safety .”

After that last series, don’t we all feel that we need a really good friend? I’ve mentioned my Best Friend Forever (BFF), Aria, before. There is no doubt of the love and support we get from our furry BFFs*. Dogs and cats are regulars in hospitals, social centers, schools, and libraries these days**. They comfort the ill, listen to children read, and help us get our exercise. Spring is a great time to get a new BFF.

Bernalillo County recently announced the opening of the Bernalillo County Animal Care and Resource Center. “This new animal care and resource center, at 3001 Second St. SW, is a little over 17,000 square feet and includes space for approximately 117 to 150 dogs and approximately 80-100 cats. Since many parts of the county are in rural areas, this new shelter will also provide more adequate housing for horses, cows, sheep and other livestock. Some of the exciting new programs and services will include many types of volunteer and recreational opportunities, educational and training classes for people and animals, camp programs, spay and neuter, microchipping and vaccination clinics, foster care, and much more.” Animal viewing from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Monday to Friday. Call (505) 314-0281 or (505) 468-PETS (468-7387) or https://www.bernco.gov/animal-care-services/animal-care-and-resource-center.aspx .

Other great options:

City of Albuquerque, Animal Welfare Department at

Eastside Shelter, 8920 Lomas Blvd NE, (505) 768-1975

Westside Shelter, 11800 Sunset Gardens Rd SW, (505) 768-1975

Lucky Paws Adoption Center, Coronado Center, 6600 Menaul Blvd NE, (505) 768-1975

PetSmart Everyday Adoption Center – 350 Eubank Blvd. NE, (505) 298-4122

or, https://www.cabq.gov/pets/adoption .

Animal Humane at

615 Virginia St. SE, Albuquerque, NM 87108, (505) 255-5523 or

10141 Coors Blvd. NW, Albuquerque, NM 87114, (505) 323-PETS (7387)

or https://animalhumanenm.org/ .

There are many other facilities available from a web search.

* There are many websites for researching the best fit pet for you. For dogs, you can start at the American Kennel Club’s Dog Breed Selector website at https://www.akc.org/dog-breed-selector/ . Both the personality of the person and the personality of the animal must match for BFFs.

** Before bringing your BFF to any facility, please make sure the BFF and you are trained to behave correctly for that environment. A good start is the American Kennel Club’s Canine Good Citizen class – taught by various trainers in Albuquerque. Then, check with that facility for additional training requirements. In these situations, a trained dog is a blessing; and an untrained dog could be a disaster.

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This is the last part of a series on relationships. Now that we have seen what unhealthy and healthy relationships look like, let’s learn the characteristics of abusive relationships. When you see these characteristics, please seek help from the resources listed in part 1 of this series and get your loved one to a safe place for recovery. Even though this series is on teen dating, these characteristics apply to any age group. This series is courtesy of the February 2019 issue of the Bernco Sheriff’s newsletter, the “Communicator.”

“Teen dating violence is defined as the physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional aggression within a dating relationship, including stalking. It can occur in person or electronically and might occur between a current or former dating partner. Several different words are used to describe teen dating violence. Below are just a few:

• Relationship abuse
• Intimate partner violence
• Relationship violence
• Dating abuse
• Domestic abuse
• Domestic violence

Teen dating violence is widespread with serious long-term and short-term effects. Many teens do not report it because they are afraid to tell friends and family. Being able to tell the difference between healthy, unhealthy and abusive relationships can be more difficult than you would think. No two relationships are the same, so what’s unhealthy in one relationship may be abusive in another. Although there are many signs to pay attention to in a relationship, look for these common warning signs of dating abuse:

• Checking cell phones, emails or social networks without permission
• Extreme jealousy or insecurity
• Constant belittling or put-downs
• Explosive temper
• Isolation from family and friends
• Making false accusations
• Constant mood swings towards you
• Physically inflicting pain or hurt in any way
• Possessiveness
• Telling someone what they can and cannot do
• Repeatedly pressuring someone to have sex

As teens develop emotionally, they are heavily influenced by experiences in their relationships. Healthy relationship behaviors can have a positive effect on a teen’s emotional development. Unhealthy, abusive, or violent relationships can have short- and long-term negative effects on a developing teen. Youth who experience dating violence are more likely to:

• Experience symptoms of depression and anxiety
• Engage in unhealthy behaviors, such as using tobacco, drugs, and alcohol
• Exhibit antisocial behaviors
• Think about suicide
• Witness or experience violence in the home

Communicating with your partner, managing uncomfortable emotions like anger and jealousy, and treating others with respect are a few ways to keep relationships healthy and nonviolent. Dating violence can be prevented when teens, families, organizations, and communities work together to implement effective prevention strategies.

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This is the second part of a series on relationships. Now that we have seen what unhealthy relationships look like, let’s learn the characteristics of healthy relationships. Please have another conversation with your loved ones. Please tell them how happy you want them to be and these are the minimum requirements of a healthy relationship. This series is courtesy of the February 2019 issue of the Bernco Sheriff’s newsletter, the “Communicator.”

“Healthy relationships share certain characteristics that our youth should be taught to expect:

• Mutual respect: Respect means that each person values who the other is and understands the other person’s boundaries.
• Trust: Partners should place trust in each other and give each other the benefit of the doubt.
• Honesty: Honesty builds trust and strengthens the relationship.
• Compromise: In a dating relationship, each partner does not always get his or her way. Each should acknowledge different points of view and be willing to give and take.
• Individuality: Neither partner should have to compromise who he/she is, and his/her identity should not be based on a partner’s. Each should continue seeing his or her friends and doing the things, he/she loves. Each should be supportive of his/her partner wanting to pursue new hobbies or make new friends.
• Good communication: Each partner should speak honestly and openly to avoid miscommunication. If one person needs to sort out his or her feelings first, the other partner should respect those wishes and wait until he or she is ready to talk.
• Anger control: We all get angry, but how we express it can affect our relationships with others. Anger can be handled in healthy ways such as taking a deep breath, counting to ten, or talking it out.
• Fighting fair. Everyone argues at some point, but those who are fair, stick to the subject, and avoid insults are more likely to come up with a possible solution. Partners should take a short break away from each other if the discussion gets too heated.
• Problem solving: Dating partners can learn to solve problems and identify new solutions by breaking a problem into small parts or by talking through the situation.
• Each partner should take time to understand what the other might be feeling.
• Self-confidence: When dating partners have confidence in themselves, it can help their relationships with others. It shows that they are calm and comfortable enough to allow others to express their opinions without forcing their own opinions on them.
• Being a role model: By embodying what respect means, partners can inspire each other, friends, and family to also behave in a respectful way.
• Healthy sexual relationship: Dating partners engage in a sexual relationship that both are comfortable with, and neither partner feels pressured or forced to engage in sexual activity that is outside his or her comfort zone or without consent.”

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Hi Neighbors and friends – Let’s show our community pride and have fun at the same time!!

It’s time for the Neighborhood Clean Up and it’s this  Saturday, April 27th, 9am to 12pm.

Volunteers meet at Rinconada Point Park (Bob McCannon Parkway & Painted Rock) for bags & supplies.

PLEASE NOTE: Only those items that fit in a bag will be picked up on this day.  The City will not pick up large items (stove, mattresses, etc.).

For more information go to: www.keepalbuquerquebeautiful.com

Looking forward to seeing everyone!

With Spring, come young love. And, whereas those of us who are old enough to have teenage children know that there is a miniscule chance of teenage love lasting, unfortunately teenagers do not have the experience to know better. This will be a 3-part series on recognizing unhealthy relationships, recognizing healthy relationships, and recognizing abusive relationships. All of this is from the February 2019 issue of the Bernco Sheriff’s newsletter, the “Communicator.” Is it time for another conversation with your loved ones?

“Unhealthy relationships are marked by certain characteristics our youth should be aware of…:

• Control: One dating partner makes all the decisions and tells the other what to do, what to wear, or who to spend time with. He or she is unreasonably jealous, and/or tries to isolate the other partner from his or her friends and family.
• Hostility: One dating partner picks a fight with or antagonizes the other dating partner. This may lead to one dating partner changing his or her behavior in order to avoid upsetting the other.
• Dishonesty: One dating partner lies to or keeps information from the other. One dating partner steals from the other.
• Disrespect: One dating partner makes fun of the opinions and interests of the other partner or destroys something that belongs to the partner.
• Dependence: One dating partner feels that he or she “cannot live without” the other. He or she may threaten to do something drastic if the relationship ends.
• Intimidation: One dating partner tries to control aspects of the other’s life by making the other partner fearful or timid. One dating partner may attempt to keep his or her partner from friends and family or threaten violence or a break-up.
• Physical violence: One partner uses force to get his or her way (such as hitting, slapping, grabbing, or shoving).
• Sexual violence: One dating partner pressures or forces the other into sexual activity against his or her will or without consent.
• Digital Abuse: Using technology to bully, stalk, threaten or intimidate a partner using texting, social media, apps, tracking etc…”

I hope that you are not seeing any of this behavior. But if you are, I encourage you to have that conversation sooner rather that later. I am giving you a list of resources that should be able to help.

Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

Trevor Lifeline (for LGBTQ* youth): I -866-488-7386

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: I -800-273-8255

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

National Domestic Violence Hotline I-800-799-7233

National Hotline for Crime Victims: I -855-484-2846

National Street Harassment Hotline: I -855-897-5910

https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/tdv-factsheet.pdf https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/ipv-technicalpackages.pdf https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/yv-technicalpackage.pdf https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/sv-prevention-technical-package.pdf https://vetoviolence.cdc.gov/dating-matters

https://www.breakthecycle.org/

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I am happy to announce that the Annual Ladera West Neighborhood Association Garage Sale will be Friday, May 3^rd and Saturday, May 4^th, 2019. With spring cleaning underway, we encourage you to plan a garage sale or partner with a neighbor to turn some of that clutter to cash. The Office of Neighborhood Coordination (ONC) Weekly E-News of Monday, July 23, 2018 gave us some advice for having a safe garage sale.

“Summer always means garage sales, and there are a few things to keep in mind when having one:

• Only two garage sales per year are allowed by City rule, and can’t exceed three days.
• No signs advertising the sale are allowed on utility poles or in medians.
• If possible, have an assistant or two to help you with sales and cash handling, and to prevent theft of sale items or cash.
• Have plenty of change on hand – $1 bills, quarters, etc. – and keep a close eye on it.
• Have a calculator on hand.
• Specify that sale of all items is final and clarify that all sales are cash only.
• For safety, have the sale in your more-visible yard or driveway, not in the garage.
• Keep your pets indoors.
• Keep your house doors and windows closed and locked, and keep your garage locked.
• Before the sale, double-check all sale items to ensure no personal or financial information is left in them.
• Watch for trip hazards such as cords, boxes, bags, or other clutter, and don’t display breakable items where they can be easily knocked over.
• Keep anything that is not for sale out of sight.
• Any items not sold at the end of the day could be put in a box marked “FREE” to eliminate further packing and cleaning up.
• If you’ve put out signs, remember to take them down at the end of the sale and keep your neighborhood looking tidy.

For additional questions on garage sales, contact the Planning Department’s Zoning & Residential Code Office at (505) 924-3850, or visit: https://www.cabq.gov/planning/planning-faqs/code-enforcement-faqs .”

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Mark your calendars!  The Great American Cleanup will be held on Saturday, April 27^th, 2019.  Meet us at Riconada Park at 9:00 am.  Trash bags and gloves will be provided.  Come meet your neighbors and have fun while we help clean our great neighborhood.

What is the Great American Cleanup?

The Great American Cleanup is a program of Keep America Beautiful.  It is the country’s largest community improvement program that kicks off in more than 20,000 communities each Spring. The Great American Cleanup, which marks its 21st year in 2019, engages more than 3 million volunteers and participants, on average, every year to create a positive and lasting impact.

The Great American Cleanup began as a litter cleanup initiative designed to aesthetically improve our environment by creating cleaner parks, streetscapes and public spaces through litter removal and elimination. To this day, community cleanups remain at the very heart of the campaign, and the results are remarkable. In 2018 alone, nearly 60 million pounds of litter and recyclables were collected by volunteers throughout the country.

Come join us and be a part of the Ladera West Neighborhood Association effort.

See you then!

Shortly before my father passed in 2012, he told me, “These days, you need to drive like a mosquito hawk (i.e.: dragonfly). You need to look in all directions all the times.” How true. Sometimes it feels like we only arrived safely at our destination because of a miracle. The February 2019 issue of the Bernco Sheriff’s newsletter, the “Communicator” reminds us to drive safely and to have a conversation with loved ones about driving safely.

“Let us be honest. We are all guilty of this. We see it every day in the cars around us during our commutes. Changing music while driving, dealing with an unruly child in the back seat, or far more commonly, sneaking a peak at our phone to catch the latest text or email, even just talking on the phone causes serious distraction issues. Distracted driving is not becoming a problem, it IS a problem and we all contribute to it.

Distracted driving is outpacing DWI as the most dangerous violation on the road today, and if we do not do something to slow this, it will only get worse. Look at our children and how connected they are to their mobile devices.

Let me try to communicate to you just why distracted driving is so dangerous. Driving is a multitasking activity. There are many small, individual tasks that we do while we drive: steering, accelerating, braking, signaling, watching opposite direction traffic, watching cross traffic. There is a lot involved in driving. And if there is one thing that humans are not good at, it’s multitasking. We are really good at focusing on one thing, not so much with many things. And what exactly is going on while we are driving? Let’s pick a common speed limit here in town, say, 35 miles per hour and look at some numbers.

For each mile per hour you go, you are traveling about a foot and a half in distance. That doesn’t sound too bad, but let’s look at a vehicle going down 4th Street at 35 miles per hour. That is about 50 feet per SECOND. A quick two second glance at the phone has you traveling 100 feet, about 7 car lengths. Face it, that is a pretty short time period, and most looks at our phones are longer than that. A lot can happen in 100 feet. Cars pulling out in front of us. Cars stopping in front of us. Pedestrians crossing streets. Kids riding bikes. And this distance does not account for you seeing and reacting to the changing circumstances in front of you. Add in another second or two for that, and we are now talking about a 200-foot lane of potential disaster in front of us, all because we thought that whatever message coming through our phone was important enough for us to endanger not only ourselves, but EVERYONE else on the road. IT IS NOT WORTH IT.

We have to learn not to use our mobile devices while driving. We have to teach our children not to use their phones while driving. The cost in damage and more importantly, injury and death is becoming greater with each passing year. It is not worth it.

We here at BCSO are committed to combatting distracted driving in Bemalillo County. We are participants of the Department of Transportation’s DNTXT Campaign, and we actively look for drivers using their phones while driving. Using a phone without a hands-free device is illegal, and offenders will be cited. Many drivers who are stopped for using their phones while driving often think that we should be out stopping “real crime”. Our reply to that is Public Safety is our business, and helping to maintain safety on our streets and highways is a large part of this. Distracted driving causes more damage and injury than you can possibly imagine.

BCSO has a dedicated traffic enforcement unit. BCSO Motors/Traffic Investigations is committed to the enforcement of all traffic laws throughout the County of Bemalillo. If you see any traffic violation related issues, please feel free to contact Captain Joshua Kingsbury at 505-314-0044, and we can work together to put a plan in place to deal with it. As always, stay safe.”

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Once again, we are reminded to be cautious of giving out our personal information. That person posing as the tax man may not be. The Office of Neighborhood Coordination (ONC) Weekly E-News of Monday, February 4, 2019 gives us the tips below to avoid imposters. I would also like to encourage you to get your credit frozen/blocked through each credit reporting agency (Equifax, Transunion, and Experion.) Learn how from the US Federal Trade Commission at https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0497-credit-freeze-faqs . This is now a free service. And, no one can access your information to open new accounts without your prior authorization.

“‘Tis the season for taxes, and with taxes come the usual fraudulent attempts to steal identities and funds. Below are some tips and reminders about how to avoid possible identity theft:

• The Internal Revenue Service (IRS) reminds residents that they DO NOT initiate contact with taxpayers via e-mail to request personal or financial information, so if you receive an e-mail claiming to be the IRS asking for information, delete it immediately.
• Do not click on links or download attachments from unknown or suspicious e-mails.
• Protect your personal information. Try not to carry your Social Security card in your wallet, and destroy and shred documentation with that information on it.
• If you receive a telephone call or e-mail asking for personal or financial information, hang up immediately and report the call to the IRS Impersonation Scam Reporting hotline at (800) 366-4484, or by e-mailing: phishing@irs.gov .
• Always use security software on your computer, including a firewall and anti-virus protection.
• Have very strong passwords and don’t use the same password for different accounts.
• For more information on potential IRS scams and what you can do to protect yourself, visit: https://www.irs.gov/newsroom/taxpayer-guide-to-identity-theft .”

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